To You

To You
who is neither one or the other.

To You
who is stuck between seats, not sure which one to belong to and which one to pick if you had the choice.

To You
who struggles to find an answer when asked who you are.

To You
who is categorised by others but not in the way you’d like to be.

To You
who doesn’t know what the colour of your skin is.

To You
who doesn’t know if you’re a man or a woman,
or maybe someone in between.

To You
who doesn’t know who you’re attracted to and
who you would like to kiss.

To You
who speaks several languages
but feels home in none.

To You
who is functioning on the surface
but crumbling underneath.

To You
who doesn’t know whether to believe or not.

To You
who doesn’t quite know who you are.

To You
if you want it to be.

It Is Okay
to be neither one nor the other. You don’t have to choose.

It Is Okay
to sit between seats. You can occupy them both, you can alternate between the two, or you can draw your own, maybe a deckchair.

It Is Okay
to struggle with the answer. You don’t have to have one, and no one should expect you to.

It Is Okay
to resist others from labelling you, and
It is Okay
to challenge their views.

It Is Okay
not to label your skin colour, and

It Is Okay
to be any gender you feel you are.

It Is Okay
not to know whom you’re attracted to.
Or maybe you aren’t attracted to anyone.
That’s Okay too.

It Is Okay
to not have a native language and
It Is Okay
to not feel home.

It Is Okay
to give yourself a break, and
It Is Okay
to not function.

It Is Okay
to suffer from a mental illness and
It Is Okay
to not always be your strongest.

It is Okay
not to know whether you want to believe.

It Is Okay
not to know who you are.

It Is Okay
to be who you want to be.

None of this
makes you less of a valuable human being.
If anything,

you’re special.

You
are proof that no one needs to be one or the other.

You
can draw a deckchair for others.

You
will find answers where others thought there is none.

You
will question normative views by being You and by doing so,

You
will break down the evil powers of the label,
and those of the binary.

You
will prove that skin colour is irrelevant

and that gender is
so much more than just “man” and “woman”.

You…

Look for answers and don’t be discouraged. They’re out there.

In books, films, music, philosophy, religion, science.
In history, in present, in future.
In sports, in crafting, in public spaces.

If at first you don’t find them, don’t fret.
When it is time they will come to you.
And from there they will flow, from You to Me to Them to Everyone.

You
have the power to transgress the norms of society.

You
will make the world a freer
and more liberal place.

This is You.
It’s Your Life.

To You, you wonderful
self-identifying human being –

It is great that you exist.

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 A German-British hybrid, Katharina Massmann is studying Social Anthropology in London. In her free time she loves reading (anything from novels to newspapers), taking photos and exploring the fabulous city that is her home. Whilst harbouring a passion for BBC Radio 4, her top 3 pet peeves are labelling, othering and gender inequalities.